1. Overturn your inner critic
The very first step to get rid from bad habits is fairly simple: you must to forgive yourself for nonideality of your person. Our inner critic is very often does not give us even get off the ground, lifting us to the needle of guilt.
Lets start from creating a list with all the things, in what you are not perfect: greed, jealousy, inability to speak beautifully and to be friendly. List with all your bad habits - from smoking and grumble at the dog to something deep that hurts loved ones.
Try to listen the inner voice of the critic, who say to you: you're not enought good. It could sound like this: "You will never loose your weight and die 40-year-old virgin", "Why you still not finished your project?", "You've never learned nothing and will not brecome successfull".
Take several minutes, even if it is not very pleasant. You must to pull it all out. And when you finish, tear the list. It will become easier.
2. Be patient, it will take time
Getting rid from bad habits - it's not a race in the 100 meters, it's a marathon.
There are many theories for what time produced a new habit. Optimal term is two-three months, so be prepared that the next months will be a difficult.
You will have a several of hard days, but they will pass by. And very soon you will begin to sense a pleasant feelings of pride and self-esteem of your compliance regime.
There is a one very good technique - "Live one day." It is very simple: if you want to escape from your routine, you say to yourself, "Okay, I will do it, but tomorrow." The next day, repeat the same for your brain. This constant delay can take several months, and they will last you to develop a new habit correct.
3. Reward yourself
Prepare yourself some pleasantness on halfway. You can do yourself any gift once at couple of weeks. It may sound like this: "If I got into these jeans, I'll give myself a new shirt." The brain is very motivated by this type of promotion.
4. Avoid different triggers
There are specific triggers that activate the mechanisms of bad habits and destructive behaviour. Simple example, if you have an alcohol problem, it is better not to visit bars and do not even approach to the shelves with alcohol in a stores. If you're depressed when you commit impulsive purchases, do not visit the shops.
In order to reduce the influence of these things, you can make a protective phrase, "If - then". Examples of protective phrase: "If I see the bar, then I'll move to the other side of the street" or "If I want to smoke, I'll eat a few carrots."
The brain must to know what he should do if suddenly you pull something "criminal."
5. Clean the list of "accomplices"
In the fight against bad habits you must seriously think about in order to reduce the list of its "accomplices".
"Accomplices" - the people who called to smoke during breaks, or trying to prove to us that "one more glass - nobody died". In some cases, "accomplices" - those who provokes us to aggressive behavior.
For example, you decide to get rid of a bad habit, like resentment. You have decided to cease to be offended by your husband. But you have a friend who says: "He did not gave you a bouquet of flowers on the day of birth? Yes, he's just a bastard! ". In this case, it is a vivid example of "accomplice".
In such cases, you need to take a piece of paper and write objectively, what are the pros to stop communicating with the "accomplice". On one side of the scale will be your future without bad habits, and on the other - just one (not always pleasant) people. Get rid of him.
6. Ask for help
To be quite honest about it, not many people who has a sufficient degree of wisdom to make the right part in our getting rid of bad habits. This is easy to check.
If you said to your relative, that are going to, for example, stop drinking alcohol, it can react in different ways. The best version of his response is: "Well, how can i help you to do this?". Worst-case scenario: "Stop drinking? What, are you all right?". Then everything is bad, but hopefully it's not about your relatives.
Most likely, your relatives react like this: "Um, okay." But they need to be turned into your allies and to ask for help. For example, like this: "I've decided to lose weight, so, mom, do not cook pies and pancakes. Or cook in the morning". Give each family members clear instructions of what to do if you suddenly decide to break.
7. Do not lose your resoluteness
We all make mistakes, and all fall periodically. If that happened with you, do not reproach yourself unduly. Moreover, get ready to fall, because it is inevitable.
Every day, working on yourself, you become better. If you stumbled and stopped the diet, gym or abandoned the practice of mindfulness, everything that you have achieved before, it will not be lost. All founded skills are still in your brain to help to be back in the saddle.
Do not give up and do not stop. If you are reading these post - you can definitely become the person you want to see yourself. Believe in yourself!